The Buzz on Healthy BEE-haviors
- Jun 20, 2017
- By Serena Sidawi
We’ve all heard the phrase, “There are plenty of fish in the sea.” Every time I heard that saying, I used to think to myself, “Yeah, but how are you supposed to find those fish?” Today, online dating sites and mobile apps make it very easy to find fish, or, in Bumble’s case, honeys. And while meeting strangers on the internet might raise some questions, dating apps like Bumble make it easy to get to know your potential dates before you meet. With the second-most common way for couples to meet being online, there has never been a better time to start talking about healthy relationship tips for dating apps.1
In partnership with Bumble, we’re bringing the buzz on healthy relationship bee-haviors straight to you!
1. Healthy relationships are built on trust, so don’t lie on your dating profile.
Fact: 53% of people lie on their online dating profile. The most common lies are age, height or weight, and job or income.2 Lying in any relationship is unhealthy, but lying before you even meet the person is just setting yourself up for failure. You should never feel the need to lie about yourself to potential matches because the people who are going to pass based on these qualities are not people you should be matching with anyway!
2. Intensity is not healthy.
Every so often you match with a person who, to put it nicely, is a bit thirsty. These are the people who will message you repeatedly and get angry when you don’t reply. They seem to think 10+ messages in a row is acceptable behavior. If anyone is making you feel uncomfortable, either online or off, they are not a good person to date. Dating apps like Bumble make it easy to avoid these sorts of people by only allowing those who you initiate conversation with first to send you a message. Boy (or girl) bye!!
3. Keep your options open.
When we say that dating apps give you lots of honeys, we mean it. You will get the no-shows, the egotists, the ones just looking to use you, etc. But there will also be some genuinely great people on there too. However, when you find someone who seems like a good match for you, that doesn’t mean it’s time to put the app away. When it comes to online dating it’s important to keep your options open and not get too invested right off the bat.
4. Get to know the person behind the profile.
Here’s something you already knew: swiping right or left on a person is easy to do, but getting to know a person IRL and evaluating if they are suitable partner is the hard part. Dating profiles give you just a tiny glimpse into a person’s life, so don’t put too much emphasis on them and take the time to get to know a person through messages before jumping to conclusions about the 2.4 children you will raise together!
5. Take it slow and steady.
When getting into a new relationship (and we don’t just mean the FBO ones) it’s good to take things slowly. When a relationship moves too quickly, it can be a warning sign that things are unhealthy. Keep things healthy by moving slowly at a pace you are both comfortable with!
6. If someone is disrespectful, don’t hesitate to use the block and report features.
If someone starts belittling you or harassing you, you have the power to block them and report them. No one should make you feel anything but awesome and TBH no one wants to date someone who is overly critical and demeaning, so you’re doing everyone a favor by reporting them for unhealthy behavior.