Written by Writer’s Corps member Cristy Gross
It’s difficult to pinpoint a single factor that makes you and your S.O. right for each other, however, the Myers-Briggs personality test may shed light on your relationship strengths.
The Myers-Briggs personality test was created by mother-daughter duo Katharine Cook Briggs, and Isabel Briggs-Myers. They wanted to make Carl Jung’s theories about personalities more accessible to the general public so they created a questionnaire that breaks down a person’s personality into a combination of four distinct traits. The first trait is determined by whether or not you are predominantly (I) introverted or (E) extroverted. The rest of your personality type is based on whether you’re driven more by (N) intuition or (S) sensing, (F) feeling or (T) thinking, and (J) judgment or (P) perception.
While the days of passively dismissing someone based on their zodiac sign isn’t over, the Myers-Briggs personality test may add some interesting insight and technicolor to the ever popular personality test fad. Because who cares if your S.O.’s a Gemini when you’re a Cancer if you’re both ESTP, right?!
Besides, knowing your personality type can give you much-needed insight into your relationship strength or superpower, if you will. What is a relationship superpower you ask? Your relationship superpower is the thing that comes exceptionally easy. While some people are naturally emphatic and strong communicators, others are better at meeting people and making connections. I would imagine you’ve noticed you’re particularly good at some things while your partner has their own strengths.
If you haven’t figured out your relationship superpower, or that things you do exceptionally well yet, that’s okay! You can take the Myers-Briggs personality test to find out what your personality type is and how you relate to other people.
Whether it’s out of curiosity or just for fun, it’s interesting to see what your results get right about your personality. Once you’ve taken the Myers-Briggs personality test, you can find out what your relationship strength is based on your personality type.
ISTJ – The Logistician
Your Relationship Superpower is Commitment!
The Logistician is quiet, serious, and practical. They prefer organization in all areas of their lives and are very responsible and logical. People with this personality type are able to decide on a course of action after careful consideration and then work toward their goal with little distraction. In romantic relationships, the logistician is dependable to a fault. They rarely see the point in blind dates and hookups, preferring to find love through mutual friends. The logistician does not take commitment lightly; once they commit to a relationship, they’re in it for the long haul. Their relationship strengths are communication, listening, and the ability to take constructive criticism.
Well-known ISTJ personalities include Natalie Portman, Nick Offerman, George Washington, Ron Swanson (Parks and Rec), and Hermione Granger (Harry Potter).
ISFJ – The Defender
Your Relationship Superpower is Listening!
If you’re ISFJ, you share your personality type with Beyoncé! Defenders typically want to foster harmony and beauty in the world and their relationships. They are always there to offer emotional support and practical advice to their loved ones. Like the defenders, they take dating seriously and prefer to enter relationships that have the potential to last. Their relationship strengths are good listening skills and taking care of daily chores.
Well-known ISFJ personalities include Beyoncé, Kate Middleton, Selena Gomez, Pam Beesly (The Office), Captain America (Marvel) Owen Hunt (Grey’s Anatomy).
INFJ – The Advocate
Your Relationship Superpower is Sensitivity!
Advocate personalities are extremely rare, making up only 1% of the population. The advocate’s affinity for making meaningful connections make them excellent friends and romantic partners since they are always striving to understand hidden motives and what makes people tick. Their sensitive nature makes them excellent communicators as they’re easily able to discern the hidden meaning behind a statement rather than what’s been explicitly said. The advocate’s relationship superpower is their sensitivity.
Well-known INFJ personalities include Martin Luther King, Jr., Nelson Mandela, Nicole Kidman, Morgan Freeman, Jon Snow (Game of Thrones), Atticus Finch (To Kill a Mockingbird).
INTJ – The Architect
Your Relationship Superpower is Healthy Confrontation!
Architect personality types make up only 0.8% of the population. People with this personality type are exceptionally brilliant, skeptical and independent. In relationships, architects are self-confident and take commitments very seriously. Instead of falling head over heels, they choose partners that consistently display desired traits. They embrace conflict instead of avoiding it, and are able to easily move on from a breakup. Thus, their relationship superpower is healthy confrontation.
Well-known INTJ personalities include Elon Musk, Michelle Obama, Stephen Hawking, Jay-Z, Sherlock Holmes, Bruce Wayne (Batman).
ISTP – The Virtuoso
Your Relationship Superpower is Respect!
Virtuoso personalities love to observe the world around them because they are born creators. Making up only five percent of the population, they usually spring for careers like engineering and mechanics and love to lend a hand to a friend. They’re extremely curious and enigmatic, which makes them unpredictable at times. Virtuoso personalities are confident partners that respect their partner’s privacy and expect their partner to do the same. Their relationship superpower is respect.
Well-known ISTP personalities include Snoop Dog, Aria Stark (Game of Thrones), The Beast (Beauty and the Beast).
ISFP – The Adventurer
Your Relationship Superpower is Appreciation of Beauty!
The Adventurer is a true artist that will challenge traditional expectations. They are truly inspired by connections with other people, and with reinventing themselves. They are spontaneous in this sense, which makes it difficult for their partners to understand them fully. This personality type is very introspective and will enjoy taking time to consider themselves and their principles. In relationships, an ISFP personality is warm and positive, a superb listener, and appreciative of beauty, and this is their relationship superpower. They desire long-term relationships more than hookups. They’re affectionate and respectful of their partner’s need for alone time.
A few well-known ISFP personalities include Rihanna, Ryan Gosling, Bob Ross, Groot (Guardians of the Galaxy), Jessica Jones (Jessica Jones), Meredith Grey (Grey’s Anatomy).
INFP – The Mediator
Your Relationship Superpower is Support!
Mediators are true idealists, they appear calm and reserved, but they’re quite passionate about causes that they deem true. They are led by a purity of intent rather than reward or punishment and are devoted to their strong principles. Many mediators go on to become poets, writers, and actors because they are so skilled in visionary communication. In relationships, this translates to a partner who is sensitive to the needs of others and genuinely caring. They are loyal and committed, and want to meet the needs of others. Mediators are supportive, flexible, expressive, and encouraging. They love deeply, and strives for scenarios in which everyone “wins.” Their relationship superpower is being supportive of their partner.
Well-known INFP include Tom Hiddleston, John Mayer, Emily Blunt, Nicholas Cage, Daenerys Targaryen (Game of Thrones).
INTP – The Logician
Your Relationship Superpower is Bravery!
A Logician is always searching for logical explanations for what interests them, and prefer exploring ideas to social interaction. They are skeptical, analytical, quiet, and flexible. They pride themselves on being unique. They are extremely intelligent and creative and are responsible for many scientific discoveries throughout history. Many well-known scientists share this personality type! Logicians are childlike in love and usually make the first move. Conflicts are a breeze for people with this personality type. Their relationship superpower is bravery.
Well-known INTP personalities include Albert Einstein, Isaac Newton.
ESTP – The Entrepreneur
Your Relationship Superpower is Spontaneity!
An entrepreneur learns best through doing things and they are the life of the party. They are usually bored by abstract concepts as they prefer lively and energetic conversations. People with these personality types tend to leap before they look and live for, passion, and pleasure. In relationships, this means ESTP personalities are charming, witty, and sensual, as well as comfortable with engaging in conflicts. They’re good under pressure, and love to spoil the people around them. They’re thrilling romantic partners and are attuned to their partner’s needs. Their relationship superpower is spontaneity!
Well-known ESTP personalities include Samuel L. Jackson, Mila Kunis, Meryl Streep, Daryl Dixon (The Walking Dead), Han Solo (Star Wars).
ESFP – The Entertainer
Your Relationship Superpower is Emotional Strength!
Outgoing and friendly, the entertainer enjoys working with others to achieve a collective goal. They are flexible and spontaneous, many well-known musical artists share this personality type! ESFP partners are clever, witty, generous, and fun-loving, as well as down-to-earth and sensual. They get things done and are decisive. Relationships with this personality type are not always about building a strong foundation for a future, but about fun, in-the-moment activities. Their relationship superpower is your emotional strength!
Well-known ESFP personalities include Adele, Adam Levine, Miley Cyrus, Serena Williams, Steve Irwin, Nicki Minaj, Andy Samberg.
ENFP – The Campaigner
Your Relationship Superpower is Devotion!
Like the entertainer, campaigners are the life of the party! What sets campaigners apart is their interest in the connections they make with others rather than sheer excitement. They are charming, independent, energetic, and compassionate. They are always looking for deeper meaning and are excellent at reading the people around them. Campaigners make upbeat and charming partners and are quick to show their devotion and reliability. They have good communication skills, are perceptive of others’ thoughts and needs, and bring out the best in people. They’re affectionate, loyal, and warm, with a great sense of humor. Their relationship superpower is devotion!
Well-known ENFP personalities include Robert Downey, Jr., Will Smith, Ellen Degeneres, The Genie (Aladdin).
ENTP – The Debater
Your Relationship Superpower is Communication!
Debater love to exercise their wit, and are outspoken, analytical and good at reading other people. they like to understand other people’s reasoning and opposing ideas. ENTP personalities are upbeat and charming, and into self-improvement for both themselves and others.
Growth is important for Debaters, and they like to test the limits of their potential partners. Stellar at communication, they can also be laid-back and flexible. They’re able to look at the big picture. Typically, they are commitment-oriented, but can easily move on from failed relationships. Their relationship superpower is communication!
Well-known ENTP personalities include Neil Patrick Harris, Benedict Cumberbatch, Peter “Star-Lord” Quill (Guardians of the Galaxy), Jim Halpert (The Office), Tyrion Lannister (Game of Thrones).
ESTJ – The Executive
Your Relationship Superpower is Decisiveness!
Executives are practical and decisive they’re able to quickly implement decisions. They usually provide clear advice and guidance, as well as leadership in difficult times. In relationships, an ESTJ personality loves to resolve conflict and they take commitment very seriously. They are resilient and very clear about what they want in relationships from the beginning and require a partner that can accept this. Their superpower is decisiveness!
Well-known ESTJ personalities include Sonia Sotomayor, Sandra Day O’Connor, Minerva McGonagall (Harry Potter).
ESFJ – The Consul
Your Relationship Superpower is Reliability!
The consuls are social creatures and prefer conversations on practical matters and light-hearted topics. They love to be of service to others and in relationships, they make a serious effort to be supportive of their partner. They prefer commitment and avoid hookups. They are very reliable and are usually in a good mood. Their relationship superpower is reliability!
Well-known ESFJ personalities include Jennifer Lopez, Evan Rachel Wood, Ariana Grande, Leslie Knope (Parks and Rec), Jar Jar Binks (Star Wars).
ENFJ – The Protagonist
Your Relationship Superpower is Growth!
The Protagonist is a natural-born leader. They tend to act as a catalyst for growth and actively work to help others fulfill their potential. They are sociable, loyal, and responsive to both praise and criticism. They radiate authenticity, concern, and altruism, which allows them to be strong leaders. In relationships, an ENFJ personality will have good communication skills. People with this personality type are most comfortable in a stable relationship and so they seek out commitment. They bring out the best in people, are fun to be around, and they are affectionate toward their partner.
Well-known ENFJ personalities include Oprah Winfrey, Demi Lovato, Reese Witherspoon, Daenerys Targaryen (Game of Thrones).
ENTJ – The Commander
Your Relationship Superpower is Willpower!
The Commander is pure charisma and confidence, and they can easily assume leadership roles and rally people to their cause. They enjoy long-term planning and goals, which makes them brilliant partners. They are frank, well-read, enjoy sharing their knowledge, and have extraordinary willpower. In relationships, they approach conflict with positivity instead of pessimism. They are sentimental, affectionate, financially responsible, and commitment-oriented. Their relationship superpower is their willpower.
Well-known ENTJ personalities include Bill Gates, Ice-T, Princess Leia (Star Wars)
What’s your relationship superpower? You can learn more about your personality type here and find out more ways about how you can learn to #LoveBetter.